In June 2005, I met a person online who overturned my world. By sharing with me her life, she helped me face the reality I was living and the life-long trap and nightmare I was heading for. Meeting Meg was my tipping point. I could no longer keep betraying myself and living a lie, for others. In February 2006, I ran from my home in Russia and a few months later headed for the open sea. I wasn't afraid. This was the best time of my life! Finally, I was in control of my destiny.

Elena Vaytsel, Елена Вайцель

Elena by her and Meg's sailboat, after arriving to Victoria, BC

In April 2007, Meg and I reached Meg's home in British Columbia. That voyage changed my whole life and reshaped me completely. I became my authentic self! I loved myself and discovered that I had dreams and the courage and strength to pursue them.

Today, I do everything in my power to encourage others to live as it is right for them, as their heart tells them. To me, there is no other way, my life would be squandered.

My message to you

The very first action I took that was right for me, gave me the life I have now!

To anybody who feel they don't determine their life but want to finally start living, fully, honestly, without self-betrayal and lies, I recommend to listen to your heart. Figure out, what it is you want. Never listen to those, who hold you down and undermine you in any way. You have got your best friend already. It is you! You just need to listen to yourself. As for the forces that we have very little control over, I would say, screw it. There is always somebody, who is ruling over us and who we are stuck with. But what we can do, is to make small steps each day that are right for us. Be honest, mainly with yourself. Define, what bothers you and why. Do, what you need to, for you! The very first action I took that was right for me, gave me the life I have now! In the roar of voices around me who screamed I was horrible and wrong, I listened to my heart just once. I found Meg. And we have a life together!